After an early festival screening of The Age of Love, a teenaged usher raised her hand and said, “I’ll never look at my grandmother the same way again!” For the first time, she saw older people not through the filter of age, but as people just like herself, struggling to connect, to be seen and understood by others.
And so, while The Age of Love entertains Boomers and empowers older adults, one major goal has been to screen the film for intergenerational audiences.
This summer, the principal of the East-West School for International Studies in Queens, NY, asked to schedule two screenings—one for 8th graders, the other for 11th graders—in conjunction with senior groups from nearby residences. The experience was eye-opening, to say the least.
One favorite comment came from a 13-year-old boy who stood up, looking stunned, and said, “I was shocked about this movie–these people, they had the same feelings as they had when they were young! You think people change emotionally in time, but it shows they still try to find someone. These people stayed the same and kept trying to find love!”
We look forward to partnering with more high schools and universities, to open eyes within the generations we truly need to reach.
IF DATING AFTER 35 SEEMS DAUNTING, imagine dating after 70. That’s the subject of the documentary “The Age of Love,” which follows a group of 30 seniors in Rochester, NY, who sign up for a speed-dating event for those aged 70 to 90.
In the film, which will be screened for the public Thursday by Audicus at 447 Broadway in Manhattan, the seniors have to deal with the same anxieties about dating we all do — and some age-specific concerns, such as whether they can put aside their portable oxygen tanks to tango.
Director Steven Loring was inspired to make the film by his uncle’s new romance at the age 78. Filming “The Age of Love” was, he writes on the documentary’s Web site, “a unique chance to discover how age affects our desire to start over, to be held once again in someone’s arms, to seek new companionship and affection.”
It was also a chance to see which dating behaviors work in later life and which don’t. We checked in with Loring and got some of his best tips for seniors re-entering the dating scene. Here’s what he had to say: Continue Reading
MOVE ASIDE MILLENNIALS—THERE ARE SOME NEW SPEED DATERS IN TOWN, and they are senior citizens. Some of the town’s older residents are participating in the nationwide dating trend that is coming to the Enfield Senior Center on Thursday, April 9, from 6 to 8 p.m.
Speed dating is a way of meeting a potential date through one-on-one conversations of just a few minutes. After each date, participants indicate on a slip of paper whether they would like to meet up with that person again. At the end of the event, everyone is told of their matches.
Susan Lather, director of the senior center, was inspired to organize a speed-dating event after 150 Enfield residents attended the center’s March 5 screening of “The Age of Love.” Continue Reading
WE WERE HONORED AND EXCITED TO PRESENT THE AGE OF LOVE at the American Society on Aging’s 2015 national convention in Chicago this spring.
Over 150 ‘healthy aging’ professionals participated in our post-screening discussion—moderated with Maripat Gallas of COAW—on ways to utilize the film. Among the suggestions were:
• inter-generational programming and discussion
• university gerontology and social work seminars
• staff training for senior residential communities
• entertainment and empowerment for older audiences
• psychology, sexuality and family counseling for seniors
• secondary school curricula, to start changing younger generations’ attitudes on aging
We look forward to partnering with the many groups who asked to utilize TAOL to support the hearts and emotional needs of older adults nationwide.
THE IDEA OF SPEED DATING FOR PEOPLE OVER 70 can evoke laughs from anyone who’s younger, along with reactions from “how cute” to “how silly” to “how gross.” And while the documentary The Age of Love does have plenty of ha-ha moments, most of the time its subjects are reflecting on a need for intimacy that never seems to die.
“I want that guy that — when I’m doing dishes — will come up behind me and nuzzle my neck and give me a hug,” says Donna Capuano, one of the women featured in the film. “I want that guy that will pick up the phone and call me during the day just because he’s thinking of me. That’s who I am.”
So why not try speed dating? At an Italian restaurant near Rochester, N.Y., 15 women and 15 men ages 70 to 90 met to judge and be judged, for five minutes at a time. Continue Reading
THE AGE OF LOVE IS PROUD TO CELEBRATE ITS INTERNATIONAL FESTIVAL PREMIERE at the 2015 Thessaloniki Documentary Festival.
Screening at the Olympion Theatre in Thessaloniki’s historic Aristotelous Square on March 15, and in the John Cassavetes Theater on March 21, the film is presented in English with Greek subtitles.
This prestigious festival introduces and promotes the most important documentary productions worldwide and creates an international forum for the presentations and discussion of emerging media and information technologies.
HAPPY TO HEAR HODA REMIND US that “Love is timeless, you still get butterflies, the same emotions….” And Kathie Lee says, “I want to see that! I love them all!” Thank you, Today Show, for having us on!
JUST IN TIME FOR THE 87TH ACADEMY AWARDS, we relaunched our own “Aging With Attitude” awards to focus attention on films that offer a view of growing older too seldom seen on the big screen.
We nominated this year’s top “aging with attitude” films—dramas and documentaries whose themes, characters, subjects or stars best defy senior stereotypes. (We define a “2014 film” as one that had its first non-festival screening last year.)
Our readers voted overwhelmingly for “The Age of Love,” a wonderful piece of documentary storytelling that gets inside the lives of a group of real-life senior speed daters. Congratulations to filmmaker Steven Loring and also to the film’s subjects, who get the “Bravest Senior Daters” award! Read Senior Planet’s interview with Loring here. Continue Reading
AS OF 2012, ONLY 57 PERCENT OF PEOPLE 65 AND OLDER IN AMERICA were married. So how is the other 43 percent finding love if they haven’t already? Perhaps though speed-dating, if they’re lucky enough to have an event in their city.
This is a concept filmmaker Steven Loring, 52, is hoping to promote with his new documentary “The Age of Love.” Loring had heard about special speed-dating events for people between the ages of 70 and 90 in Colorado and Florida before inquiring around his hometown of Rochester, NY, to see if a senior center there could get one going. As soon as one was planned, Loring began documenting the stories of the 30 singles who signed up.
The narratives that unfold in his film are full of vulnerability and frankness from a demographic whose experiences usually go untold. These daters are dynamic, hopeful and just as nervous as anyone at any age brave enough to put themselves out there — yes, romantic rejection stings just as much at 75 as it did at 25. Continue Reading
We could not have been prouder to witness the very first (of, hopefully, dozens) of The Age of Love-inspired senior speed dating events in America. After a Valentine’s Day screening of the film at the historic Hollywood Theatre in Portland, OR, sixteen men and women took a chance, meeting for drinks and 5-minute ‘dates’ in a romantically-decorated setting, in search of new friends and more!
We thank the Hollywood Senior Center (and Amber Kern Johnson!) for her vision and courage and her love for the people she serves. Join us in the ‘senior speed dating’ movement by visiting our Host A Dating Event page—and make a difference in the hearts and desires of older adults in your community!